Dalila, I am really sorry that you are struggling with this. You are carrying a great amount of guilt for something that you had nothing to do with. The title of your post is "I Made My Therapist Cry." Nowhere in this post do I see that you did anything to make your therapist cry. Your therapist seemed to be crying over something completely separate.

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I struggled with my own tears cos it ripped my heart up to see her hurting.

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This is really nice, Dailia. I'm sure your therapist appreciated the empathy that you are able to feel towards her It shows that you really care.

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Well I tried but I couldn’t help my concern and at a point that seemed appropriate to me I asked her if she had a therapist to talk to about stuff. And she started crying again.

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As patients, although we do care a great deal for our therapists, it is never our responsibility to feel like we need to care of them.

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I feel like I failed us both.

I just ache with it all. I want to go back to my si, I want to call her but I am afraid to - how can I explain how I feel without making it sound like I blame her for crying. I don’t blame her it is my reactions I am concerned about not hers. She showed me she is human and I feel like I rejected it. I want

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There is a fine line between a therapist showing that he/she is human and bringing too much of him/herself into the session. As a result of what happened, you are feeling responsible, like a failure to your therapist, like your rejecting your therapist, and like you want to SI. You should never have to feel like this as a result of what your therapist brings into the session. It sounds as though you and Dr. K have a really great relationship-- this is something that the two of you can process together. Therapy is about the client, not the therapist, and a certain amount of discretion must be used, on the part of the therapist, in regards to what emotions he/she discloses in the room.

Personally, I would be really angry at my T if something similar happened. I would definitely feel empathy towards him because I wouldn't want him to feel that type of hurt, but I would also be really angry that he couldn't separate his own issues from my therapy session.

You DID NOT make your therapist cry. You ARE NOT responsible for making her feel better. She is responsible for keeping her own emotions in check in order to focus on yyou. You say that you are afraid to call her because you don't want to blame her for crying-- you are entitled to whatever emotional response that you have. This is about you.