Living in the moment has been fantastic.

When I keep saying, "Today I'm OK", that's where it's coming from.

The thing with me is, I don't get very angry. I've been out of my mind frustrated, but not very angry.

She's an injured, damaged person. I don't want to cause more injury to her. I'm serious when I say I love her. There were traces of this always, but it got a lot worse in recent years.

In fact, it worsened both with alcohol and with her ADD medication, which a BPD person is not supposed to take.

Like I was saying.... Injured, in pain, damaged. But I can't let her draw us all down again.

Boundaries, defense but no offense. I think that's my path.

Thanks everyone.

RDM