There is no point to confront or argue. What did these months of arguing and confronting with him taught you? That’s it pointless. What did it accomplish? Except gave him more wiggle room to manipulate you.

It’s also pointless telling him “I don’t want to hang out”. First of all you already told him that and second of all it’s just a common sense. Purpose of divorce is that in absence of kids there is nothing to hold you together. You don’t need to argue and confront about dating ex spouse. Nothing to discuss

In fact I’d not be going to the bank. It’s a game. I had people transfer money to me and I transferred money to them and I gave checks and I received checks. I’ve never stepped foot in anyone’s bank. I don’t even go inside my own bank. It’s been years. Everything done without ever going to the bank. He’s again manipulating you telling you stories how you must go to the bank. It’s yet another ploy among many of his ploys

But if you want to go to the bank, don’t confront anyone or explain. Take money and go.