My counselor, and two of the kids counselors have said she definitely displays traits of BPD.

Listening to stuff online, vulnerable NPD very, very much aligns with what I've experienced with her.

However, her symptoms got much, much worse in the last three years. That may be due to the accumulation of long term drinking.

But, she also began Adderall about 3 years ago too. If you look up BPD and Adderall they are a bad mix. Adderall can increase BPD symptoms.

No confusion of what they each are 😀