If it was a mistake to give her/them a lot of time, you are allowed to correct the mistake by giving them a lot less time, or no time, in the future. You are not locked in, forever, because of that mistake.

I myself would be especially wary of the one who wants you to stay with her when you see family. I myself would stay far away from her. In my view. that was way too much closeness being proposed for what your relationship with her was before her "love bombing" began. If she gets upset, so be it, she gets upset.