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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover
You need to find a healthy way to process your anger about him. The longer you hold onto your anger, the longer he is in control. YOU are responsible for your emotions and aret the one who has to deal with them.
I have thoughts about his lies. It is usually the abused person who is last to really see the lies they've been living with and the red flags that weren't known in the moment. I'm hesitant to share some thoughts I have about this inheritance situation. My different perspective may cause you more anxiety and apoear to be victim blaming. My thoughts are impacted by my own life but my intention is not to hurt or blame you. Do you want to know my perspective?
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Also, to let you know.. your tone comes across as slightly condemning. I am STILL in the divorce process.. it’s not over. We JUST had our divorce hearing last month. I am STILL processing everything and am still in the midst of the emotions surrounding divorce.
I will take as long as I need to to get through this and to process my emotions, and no one should be judging that. No one. It can take years to get over and heal from an abusive marriage.
Considering all that I’ve been through, I think I’m holding up pretty darned well and am getting through it as best as I possibly can considering that I also lost my job and am dealing with all the stress that involves too.
And I am proud of myself for calling him out on his bs. I think I should be applauded for not letting him get away with it - I’m patting myself on the back at least and I’m proud of myself. And that’s all that matters.
I have every right to be angry and I am doing a lot of self care. However long it takes me to get past the anger is my business and no one else’s. It’s healthy I think to allow oneself to work through it. And that can be a slow process. Who are you to judge that process?