your relationship sounds much like mine. we dated on and off for 9 years before getting married, i even had a very short disasterous(but got a wonderful child out of it)marriage to someone else. the early years of marriage were very bumpy, even my in-laws wondered why i stayed. easy answer, beneath it all he is my best friend. we are about to celebrate our 20th anniversary and have a very solid relationship.

if you are still together now then there must be a deep underlying connection. go to therapy and try to work out your problems. don't give up on something that has come this far without a fight.

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