Thanks so much, and yeah, I hear ya. Honestly, what works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another person. We're all so individual and healing is a personal/individual process, contingent on many factors.

I appreciate your desire to help, based on what's worked for you. It's a natural inclination to share what's worked or lessons learned along the way.

Initially when you stated I am responsible for how I feel and if I continue being angry, it's only going to give him more control.. well, that's not how I see it, or that was my initial reaction.

Yes, I agree that we are each responsible for how we feel..

but emotions cannot always be contained or controlled.. and we have to roll with them and work through our emotions as they arise.

And as Divine just said, being angry at this stage is appropriate, and I agree. He doesn't need to be privy to my emotional process or upset. It's something that I need to work through, now that I recognize that I am in fact, very angry.

I honestly have not been in touch much with anger in myself most of my life. Anger was dismissed and buried in my family. I buried it by becoming depressed, by self-medicating with alcohol or drugs, and by developing an eating disorder.. I am still learning how to acknowledge, process and deal with anger. It's not a comfortable emotion & I am very used to burying it. Now I wish to learn how to deal with it in a healthy way. Today, I went to the beach and went roller blading. That helped!!!