Yes, she is the victim. She needed to be free. She asked me to be a part of her life and I didn't meet her.... Never mind I tried every new hobby she tried in the last three years, and she met me on none of the scheduled times we had.

But more so..... She ditched the kids. She was deeply hurtful to the oldest, and outright ignored the others, with no accountability.

How does that person see themselves as the victim?

Jeez.