Dalila
I think you handled this situation fine. And as others have stated YOU DID NOT MAKE HER CRY. You showed compassion and your willingness to put your needs aside for someone else who you care about who is in distress. You also must have shown some genuine acceptance of your T even if she was not in her professional state of emotional control. If anything you simply allowed her to cry. This was an opportunity to demonstrate that you care about your T and I think you did just that.

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She is responsible for keeping her own emotions in check in order to focus on you.

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Pink I read this line and my initial response is...This is my biggest problem right now. I do this so well that it has become automatic and I can't not do it. I understand that T's are expected to regulate their personal emotions (especially ones that relate to the patient or patient's situation). My T has told me emotions are not good or bad, that I shouldn't suppress them or ignore them, I should feel comfortable crying or expressing ("Emoting") in front of people...emotions are normal human responses...blah...blah. .blah.. I understand that you can't let it all bleed out while at work, but isn't this a bit hypocritical?

Maybe her T, when she realized that she was having trouble should have explained the situation, that it had nothing to do with Dalila, and then asked her if she could reschedule for another time. Seeing my T emote might actually help me lighten up a bit. Kind of like ... "See its OK to cry--I'm doing it." kind of way.

Dalila, maybe you gave your T more than you think. You were a patient that cared enough to allow your T to still try and help you, even when she wasn't at her best. Sometimes the best cure for sadness is being able to help someone else.