On a separate subject, Jay M. has been gone since Sat, on his sailing trip in the Caribbean. He's called me 3 times on video so far. But I've noticed he is otherwise not very engaging over text.

I met another man named Jay T. last Sunday at a show. We've met before and were already Facebook friends, but we hung out on Sunday and we've been talking over messenger every day since. He is very engaging over text and is asking me lots of questions about my life to get to know me better. He tells me I am beautiful, adorable, and amazing, after sharing details of my life history with him.

Jay M. doesn't say much like that... in the beginning he did and told me I am an amazing woman, but he hasn't said anything complimentary since then, except for once when we went out and he told me that I looked "incredible" that night.

It makes me wonder if Jay M. is truly interested in me or invested in getting to know me better. I sense a LOT of interest from Jay T. I told Jay T. I am dating someone, so he does know about the other Jay...

Jay M. did say that he wants to see me as soon as he returns and he talked about making plans for the weekend he is back... so, there is that at least, and he has called me over video 3 times so far.

I could be reading into things...

I mean, he is busy being a crew member on a sailboat and likely cannot spend much time sending messages while also sailing (I imagine). They stopped at an island and went to the beach yesterday. He told me they met all kinds of people & he and his cousin made friends with a couple people and went to dinner with them. I didn't ask if they made friends with females, males or perhaps a couple vacationing there. His cousin is over 300 pounds and is married... Jay M did tell me before he left that he wouldn't be "babe shopping" while in the Caribbean, but my imagination is running wild and I cannot help but wonder if he is .... he told me last night that he had an "interesting night" and that he would tell me about it tomorrow since I was already in bed... I wonder what "interesting" means.

My point? I don't want to be chasing a man or longing for him to be interested in me and invested in getting to know me better, if he isn't that invested. But it's really hard for me to tell right now with Jay M. I'm getting a mixed bag of signals.. which is making me question and guess about his level of interest in me...

when we are together in person 1:1, he is very engaging with me, but doesn't ask me many questions about myself or my life.

And then there is Jay T. who clearly IS interested and who is very engaging with me, asking me many questions about myself and my life.

I don't know what to think.