Jay 1 (Sail boat guy) is not a long term material in any shape or form. I need to hit the road for work so I have no time to type much but trust me unless you want casual fun, this isn’t happily ever after story

Jay 2 I know nothing about. Is he in a relationship? Why talking on messenger? That’s weird. Love bombing right away is a little suspect. You aren’t dating. You told him you are dating someone else and here he goes: beautiful amazing adorable. Hhmm. Uncomfortable.

I think because you tend to put a lot of emphasis on what men say, you need to pay double attention to all other things about them. Anybody can say anything. And sneaky men (your husband for example) know all too well what women want to hear.

I personally would try not to worry about men right now. Too vulnerable. Easy to fall prey to love bombing. Still angry about ex etc I’d take time off from men