Shadow and I remember Molly fondly!
Since the topic drifted into financial terrain, I'll just mention that the person I spoke to regarding the automatic withdrawals was very helpful. She warned me that they were required to subtract CT withholding tax, even though Roth IRAs are supposed to be tax-free! So there's a form I need to download and specify 0 withholding on and then submit it with the form that requests the payments. Apparently there's a similar thing in VA. The pension of someone who died recently has been reduced for state withholding tax even though the money should transfer to the beneficiary tax free.