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Originally Posted by ruby2023
She messaged me on snapchat later in the evening that if I need to vent or talk to someone, I could talk to her. She saw I was in a bad place so she voluntarily messaged me that. And now, just a couple days ago, a coworker had something crappy happen to her in her personal life. And my Favorite Person gave a crap about HER problem. It's been 6 months since FP gave a crap about mine. And she still has my coworkers on snapchat but deleted me right before Thanksgiving. And one of my coworker went overseas for 3 months and they send each other snaps practically every dAy.
Most of my coworkers (including managers) also deleted me cuz I was always rude to them. But they also continue to friend each other on snap. Same thing had also happened to me (social media wise) at the other mcdonald's location I used to work at. (it was facebook back then). Cuz I dared to have a favorite person like everyone else.
Managers and crew friend each other on social media at all the mcdoanld's stores in this area. But my job coach said I shouldn't partake cuz I can't handle it. Well, they all deleted me so...
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As other posters have mentioned, just because someone says you can vent to them doesn't mean it's okay to. Most people say that out of politeness and they secretly hope you don't actually vent to them about your problems, trust me I learned that the hard way when I was in high school and I wasn't even obsessive. I know it sounds harsh but no one wants to hear about your problems, even people outside the workplace usually don't want to hear it and will pull away as necessary. The reason your coworkers like each other is because they most likely don't divulge their negative personal lives to each other, maybe they'll talk about the positive stuff which is more acceptable but the negative stuff needs to be kept outside the workplace.
Divulging your personal life creates a toxic environment, it brings others down and even makes others uncomfortable. When you're at work, you're expected to be focused on work and actually doing your job. It sounds like you're doing everything but your job, you're so focused on your personal life that you can't even do the basic stuff your employer expects you to do. Also telling someone that they're their 8th favorite person is just so toxic and rude, I would've pulled away too and telling someone they better stay good actually comes off as threatening so they have every right to stay far away from you and you need legitimate professional help from a licensed therapist.