I’ve held firm to my boundaries with my mother.

The latest is she walked out of the facility without them releasing her, and she told me it was all my fault. She wanted to go home. They would not release her because she cannot care for herself. They said she needed someone to give them assurance they would be responsible for her and provide her nursing care at home.

This is my boundary that I have already told my whole family I cannot and will not do. Many times over already.

Mom didn’t ask me, she told me at the last minute as a surprise, when she told me she was going home, to call the facility and give them this assurance. I refused. So did my sister. She didn’t ask other family.

So Dad picked her up and they just left the facility.

Mom called me from home and berated me for not having visited her, like other people had their family visit. It was “all my fault” she wasn’t allowed to leave, and she has “lousy daughters” because none of us went to visit her this whole time. This is true.

The good news for me here is I am not particularly upset, not at all emotionally dysregulated!

One sister has decided to go no contact with her. The other said she won’t call her anymore, but I know she will. She calls her daily and they bicker. I am maintaining low contact, and will continue to give help in the ways I agreed to no matter how they treat me.