Alcoholism is in itself a SELFISH disorder. People who tend to turn to and abuse alcohol tend to be Bpd, NPD , ADHD, PTSD, and Bipolar. When any of these individuals stop abusing alcohol, they must get therapy for the underlying cause. If they don’t the risk of abusing alcohol again is high.

The trend has been to label people as being a narcissist. Many who actually get unfairly labeled are those who struggle wit ADHD. Those with ADHD often are empathetic, some accuse them of love bombing when they are not but instead are love showering. These individuals are wired differently and tend to not produce enough dopamine. They can have a hard time getting motivated and can get disorganized. They are often punished instead of being helped. Many don’t get diagnosed until they are in their 30’s.

Because they struggle but can be nice they often end up in abusive relationships with a narcissist or someone with Bpd. (Often but not always).

I have observed over many years many different situations involving alcoholism. When someone starts young that is their maturity level. And they gaslight and hide and defend their AUD. It’s not unusual for such a person to play the victim role and also be addicted to drama. Also they don’t admit how they chose a partner to use while they continued to engage their AUD. It’s ALWAYS someone else’s fault.

It never ceases to amaze me how others blindly believe their stories.