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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
I get anxious around friendships. It’s a form of social anxiety I think, but I have no problem leaving the house and talking to people, it’s closer interactions I get stressed about.
I do overthink at times, and I question myself a lot. Although I really like some people I find it hard to really believe they could like me all that much back. When they don’t reply or go quiet for a while I tend to think that it was bound to happen. It does happen quite a bit.
I do have some suspicion I have autistic traits, and social ease doesn’t come naturally to me - interactions can exhaust me. I work hard at saying the right things is the best way to describe it, while still authentically being myself as much as possible (if I’m relaxed I can go on about subjects that fascinate me and know not everyone will want to hear so I try to reign it in). I might add I am a good listener and do focus on what others are saying, in fact sometimes I can get overwhelmed by people who talk a lot.
Sometimes I wonder if friendship isn’t for me, I have written this on here before and people said that was negative thinking, but it’s what I think. I am very fond of several people but it feels stressful sometimes trying to figure out interactions.
Maybe it’s pragmatic rather than negative thinking to think maybe it isn’t for me? Do some people live perfectly content lives with no close friends and acquaintances only?
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Sorry to hear that. I often worry about friendships too. I have thankfully been able to ease up a bit. That’s only because a few people have been brutally honest with me & how I need to stop ‘chading’ people & to give them space.
I’m not suffocating, but I to find it hard to deal with social situations at times. It seems like I’m usually the one who wants & need a close friendship. Most people don’t want that or they aren’t looking for any close friends as they probably have enough close friends as it is.
Idk. I just know that they don’t really want a close friendship with me. I might be slightly autistic or have autistic traits too. I don’t understand some thins like why people constantly say things they don’t mean like I’ll text you & they never do.
It took me awhile to figure out that was a polite brush off. You’re not alone in this. Trying to make friends takes a lot of work. I think that you worry about being rejected like I do. I rately even feel comfortable with most of the friends I already haveas they could just disappear at any moment.