Sadman, sending good vibes that you hang in there without too many problems today.

So much of what you say, I could have written about dh and myself.

So often it feels like the person I once knew died and was replaced with this person who isn't very nice and can't care about anyone else's feelings.

And some people try to convince me that he was always like this..... But in my mind, something definitely changed, and I may never know what. And in the end, it may not really matter

Open Eyes, thank you for all the information/explanation, it gives me a lot to ponder in regard to dh. He often seems like he is a lot like a child, reverting to maladaptive coping techniques, but not actually able to think about it and control it as much as do it.