You don’t have to stop being a good person or caring about your wife.

Unfortunately she has a battle going on in her mind that is confusing her and she can’t tell you what the outcome will be. Sometimes a person struggling will push others away so they themselves don’t get hurt because they are already overwhelmed.

I am sure you are feeling confused and helpless because you genuinely don’t know what to do or how to help her.

Her choosing to drown her symptoms using alcohol only makes things worse.