Moose,

I think Rose wrote an excellent post. I also suggest to you that you detach yourself and see what his reaction to it will be. If he feels it and complains, explain to him that you have shown him what it feels like to be on the receiving end of coldness and detachment and tell him that he either learns to be different and accepts that life is full of risks and takes a risk with you, or that you will leave him because the relationship as is fills you with nothing but sadness and you have to think of your long-term self interest in the end.