I took my daughter to counselling on Friday.

Within minutes the counselor began talking to daughter about her mom's narcissism, and about using health and stuff to always put herself first, and to just suck the air out of the room. The counselor said, "I grew up with a single parent. You're going to be ok. Your dad has you, and you're going to be great."

I watched four licensed practitioners on YT this weekend. Dr Ramani didn't quite describe my experiences, but the others. f l o o r e d me. They described my life, INCLUDING that I came from a background of doing a lot for other people without much recognition, including using guilt to manipulate me, including requiring me to do increasingly outrageous things to prove myself.

Including BAITING me after she discards me!

I got texts on Thursday from her, about how she just happened to be in our neighborhood over an hour before work, so she decided to check the old mailbox, and it just happened to be right when daughter was leaving for school.

And followed it up with the suggestion that it would be best for daughter if wife and I entered parenting classes together.

THIS IS LAUGHABLE TO ME RIGHT NOW!

She's having a complete "oh crap, I look really bad, and I'm going to pay child support" moment.

And.... Not one question, comment, concern about any other kid, just daughter. And not one question of, "How is she doing at school? How is she adjusting? When is her report card? How is her attendance?"

This is pure optics.