Just today, over text, my son said,

You're a victim of 20 years of emotional abuse and blackmail. You aren't strong enough to break free from that alone. She's created a reaction in you that is really strong, and the only reason you walked away from it was you loved and worried about us kids more than you loved the feeling she created in you. One interaction with her undoes a month of progress. We see the change in you. We need you, and you need your head clear. None of us have gotten through to her, even as everything fell apart in the final six months. If you see any crack or change in her now, it is because it will create a reaction in you. That's all. She isn't worried about you, or me, or the younger kids. You need to go completely no contact. I will go to the police and get an order barring her from contact with us kids to make that happen if you can't on your own.

He's a good, strong young man, and a blessing to me.