I think you are doing a good job when you consider the well being of your children. I think that even though you are being hurt and bullied you do your best not to trash talk about your wife. Unfortunately your wife has not taken that path and her selfish acts are hurting her own children. I also think these friends your wife met on line are encouraging her to make bad decisions and are encouraging her to act on emotions. She is getting bad advice from toxic people who are not really her friends.