ITA with your approach. It sounds like it's conducive to your healing and understanding of the situation, plus it essentially leaves her hanging with the ball in her court for the time being.

She may not move very quickly, hoping that you do that instead. If she takes action, then she can't as easily be in the victim position as she would be if you did it. Plus, let her do the heavy lifting when it comes to decisions, at least for now. You can obviously change your course any time it feels right, but if the status quo works well enough for you, stick with it. See what happens.

Open Eyes' comment about not proceeding when emotions are heightened made me say, "Oh, yeah" right out loud. Cooler heads prevail. Take advantage of this time to "put your house in order", whatever that means to you. It sounds like you're already doing that.

Keep on keeping on.