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Originally Posted by Samicat
When someone emotionally abuses and gaslights you, they make you doubt your own perception and feelings. It's very scary and and agonizing.
Looking for evidence is natural - not necessarily to use against them, but to convince yourself you aren't crazy. To convince yourself that whatever they are saying about you isn't true. To convince yourself that just because they bullied you into submission doesn't mean you are weak.
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Samicat, I meant to reply to this part of your post... it's a very important point!
YES, gaslighting makes you question your own perceptions of reality. It makes you question yourself and your gut instincts.
And you're dead on accurate about why I felt the need to dig into the evidence, supporting my theory and instincts. He tried to gaslight and lie to me about this, and most adamantly! He said with firm emphasis "You are flat out WRONG, and I can prove it in a court of law!"
He will stop at nothing to try to intimidate me from seeking/knowing the truth. And, I found the truth, which is what my gut was telling me - that it was all a lie, and I had plenty of clues backing it up in support of what my instincts were telling me.
Naturally, he would not have shown up that day at my door, offering me 17K and telling me he could go to jail, IF he had not lied and KNEW he was in the wrong. There were plenty of other clues telling me he was lying, but going back to my thread solidified the truth for me and told me that my gut instincts were right on target.
So, I thank you for understanding and for pointing this out in support of what I did to discover the truth!
