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Old Apr 26, 2023, 08:02 AM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
It’s interesting to me how he seems to be wanting to have some kind of continuing relationship with you. Why did he feel he needed to come to your door to defend his character? When people are divorcing, they are done with each other and don’t really care what the other thinks of them because the other thinks badly of them and that’s why they are divorcing! This part is really strange to me and I am projecting a bit because I have similar issue happening.
I believe it's because otherwise, he suffers a narcissistic injury, and he must defend himself at all costs against losing his false sense of self and false inflated ego. If I point out everything wrong with him and confront him square on with who he truly is, his ego gets severely punctured and he will fight against that. So he must try to prove to me otherwise that he's such a "good person" and "good guy". With a narcissistic injury, they lose that inflated false sense of self and can plummet into severe depression, self destruction and loss.
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