I'm really sorry you are dealing with this. My mother was similar (she now has dementia and I don't have contact with her). It is very hard, but over time, I had to sort of divest from her. I had to accept that she's not capable of being supportive of or happy for me. After so many disappointments, I didn't have much choice. I also pulled back in my relationship with her, keeping interactions superficial.


It seems like my grandmother was the same with her, so, she is repeating patterns. The sad thing is that she has no introspection and never realized this or got help.

Therapy helped me to some extent with accepting I can't change her.

I know how difficult it is.