Open Eyes, earlier today someone said the same thing to me.

I can't begin to explain the victim mentality. It's surreal. She was angry for years that my brother didn't treat her like family, because he never phoned while she was sick. I said, yes, he did. 2-3x a week. He offered a ton of support and ideas. No, not good enough, because he only phoned me, and never phoned her.

I was like..... ?????

Huh????

Of course he's phoning me. I don't phone your sister to see how she's doing.

Not the same. My wife's supposed to be family, and my brother didn't treat her like family. So, she was righteously wronged.