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Originally Posted by ArmorPlate108
Sadmanagain, I am so very, truly sorry for what your wife and you have gone through. That is just horrendous and unacceptable.
I think I mentioned dh has medical problems that are undiagnosed and frequently dismissed. The last few years, my view of doctors keeps going down. They often don't feel like CARE providers, they feel like processors, ticking boxes and forgetting that they are working with actual, feeling, complex human beings.
Anyhow, good to hear that your inspection went well. Maybe a little space IS what she needs. Once you move, will you continue to see her regularly, on a friendly level?
It seems like as an abuse survivor, there might be a lot of undertones of authoritative abuse, including that by the doctor. Do you think maybe you are triggering that overbearing adult figure in her psyche, even though your intentions are loving and want to help? If so, maybe giving her that space to feel more control over herself will eventually bring her back around.
Lots of prayers and positive thoughts for you.
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Thank you for the positive thoughts and prayers, I can use as much as I can get .
I don't think so but I suppose anything is possible. I can hear what you are saying though and I can see how it's possible .
She won't talk about much at this point about us stuff so it's hard to say for sure.
She had previously discussed how she would like to be friends still and eventually do things together and see where that goes . She emphasized how if we were to try we would need to take baby steps .
I like what you are saying about her having space helping her feel more control over herself will eventually bring her back around. I very much hope you are right .