Thank you to everyone who has responded.

I still cannot accept my mom the way she is.

I keep thinking she'll change, but she won't.

I planned a trip to visit my best friend two states away.

So I coordinated the whole trip **completely on my own** down to the last detail--the flights, the car rental, where I'm staying, finding extended parking, ALL the details, and my mom knew I intended to travel, but I left her completely out of the loop about all the planning until...

...I presented her an itinerary of my trip--I kept everything to the point, just the facts, the way she likes, because I want her in the loop if I'm flying out of state. I called her all excited and proud of myself that I did it on my own and thought she'd be so impressed, but when she answered...

The tone of her voice when she answered was immediate disgust, couldn't be bothered, couldn't be excited or happy for me, totally offended. I hung up on her after 40 seconds because her attitude was so awful.

And since then she still isn't talking to me because I called her out on it afterwards.

I'm trying to contact her less, but then she'll message me how much she misses me and haven't heard from me in a while, even if it's only been a few days.