Same goes for me, too.

I don’t think they tried to ruin my life, though. It’s more just a case of they are who they are, and I am just a byproduct of that. They didn’t care enough about me to try to ruin my life. They certainly did not give any thought to the idea that they are harming me in any way. I was not a separate identity to them that was even seen that way.

The whole family has distanced themselves from my mother. Her response to this is to say she has bad daughters (which she says directly to me every time I call, like the good daughter I am). She would never consider that she is a bad mother.