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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
It’s hard to know exactly what’s going on from just reading this. But I can see that you’re becoming resentful of being constantly the listener/supporter and you sound like you feel like your needs are being ignored with the people you hang out with.
It’s possible that because you’re by nature a quieter person that they might’ve wrongly assumed you’ve got nothing to say? That can happen especially with less emotionally aware people. So they could just be the wrong fit for you.
I find big groups not the best fit for me either, it’s okay if there’s a purpose ie sports activities, but in conversation I’d feel lost. Have you thought about what sorts of activities and groups might work for you? Divine makes some good suggestions.
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You’re absolutely right about what you said. Maybe some people do assume that I have nothing to say. They don’t bother trying to get me to talk by asking ANY questions which irritates me. They obviously only want to talk about themselves.
I will stop intiating or even trying to make ANY effort to make ANY new friends from now on. I’m a lost cause I guess. No one likes me. I only have one good friend who actually asks me any questions. She doesn’t judge me unlike everyone else. She knows that other people make me feel ignored & unappreciated.
Why would I want to torture myself more fornothing? Would you bother working for free? That’s what it’s like for me, unpaid work. It’s not worth the constant stress & rejection at all.
I despise all groups btw. I always get ignored in them. Always. Either that or sime obnoxious person steals any attention I get from anyone. See what that rude meetup organizer lady did above.
I recently tried meeting other women one on one on nextdoor & so far out of 5 women, no one contacted me back except for one lady. One flaked on me teice. Two of them are iffy as they both had family emergencies & wouldn’t be available for weeks. It could be true or it could be a bizarre brush off. Only time will tell which is which.
These things make me a lot more depressed & anxious. So I’m done, eff it. I’m going to quit for good if things don’t work out with those few women that I mentioned.
I’m just going to become so angry & frustrated that I’ll snap eventually at someone who pushes me to far soon. I alresdy told that mooch lady what I thought of her yo her face from another thread, lol.