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Originally Posted by Samicat
My heart goes out to you. It will get easier.
It's so very hard to explain to someone that you were abused when your abuser seems like a nice, reasonable person. My mother was a totally different being when she was abusive to us. Her face would swell and get red. She spoke in a different voice. I'm sure her students or anyone who knew her would be so shocked to have seen her like that.
And it's very hard to describe certain kinds of abuse. I've written about my mother's abuse and even then, it doesn't always come across. The Arctic blast of a narcissist's rage that's like running into a wall of ice.
What anyone else thinks doesn't matter. You were there and you know what happened. I would maybe just slip away when the topic of marital discord comes up. |
Thank you!
All sooo true. It is hard to describe. He would get me so confused by all his tactics to throw me off balance, put me on the defensive, and deflect all responsibility onto me, that it became difficult to identify.. I knew he was attacking me, but he would confuse me too.
I leaked out to a mutual friend that he had been abusive. The people I am becoming closer friends with, I have confided in.
But yes, to your point, I know the truth and that’s all that really matters.