I get the whole wanting to rationalise, to anticipate outcomes, to have some sort of order or predictability in a world that is anything but predictable. But you’re right it can be exhausting and doesn’t usually change anything.

I hope you’ll get a non coffee with this woman, take it as it comes, there’ll likely be surprises along the way - maybe you’ll click or maybe not, maybe you’ll click with someone else. You are young, you’ve got options and possibilities ahead of you.