Toxic/self centered people need all the attention to revolve around them. They learn to manipulate others emotionally to get a sense of power. They don’t have the ability to sit and listen and comfort. They only know they have to learn techniques to pretend they care, but it’s an act and they find it exhausting and boring. They are the ones that are indifferent. And they have these toddler meltdowns until THEIR needs are met. You must be attentive to THEIR needs, otherwise they have varying meltdowns.

HOWEVER, if someone is ADHD, they genuinely struggle due to how their brain is wired this is on the autism spectrum and there is a genuine struggle within self as they can get overwhelmed. ADHD doesn’t mean stupid, but instead it tends to present as disorganized and tendency to get overwhelmed, impatient, and bored. Yet, these individuals can get hyper focused and work on something for hours until it’s accomplished. This is often confused with manic episodes when it’s not.

Once alcohol abuse/addiction is added, everything revolves around the constant self medicating with alcohol.

If someone is emotionally manipulative, they are maladaptive and the only way to break free is learn how to not react and become indifferent. They are lost if they can’t emotionally control.