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Originally Posted by divine1966
I am not sure how anything could spontaneously happen with adults? Like spontaneously hooking up with strangers? By this logic you can never trust anyone if you think they could spontaneously hook up. It’s not a normal behavior at all. Like no self control at all? I’ve met women who think that men are just like dogs and have no self control. It’s just not the case
I think if you want exclusive relationship, you need to discuss it. If you don’t want to discuss it yet, then I think there’s no point to ask such things. I do girl group travel few times a year and also travel to see family. I’d be very offended if I was asked if I hooked up with men on my travels (even if I wasn’t married). It’s like do I strike them as the type to go sleep with total strangers on vacation?
I don’t think it’s a natural or normal question at all. And it certainly could be offensive. But I could see where it’s coming from so it’s ok to explain that you keep meeting men with loose morals and no common decency so you have hard time imagining that men might just travel and not hook up with women. Such projection is not uncommon and is understandable. Decent man won’t hold it against you and will understand where you are coming from
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He knows that my ex cheated on me, but he doesn’t know my whole history with multiple unsavory men. He told me today that he was taken by surprise, but not offended. I explained that I just didn’t know, since he was meeting people.
People spontaneously hook up on trips and vacations all the time. It happens. Now if you’ve been with someone a long time and are committed, then I could see how it could be offensive. But not when it’s early on in the relationship and when you just don’t know.