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Originally Posted by East17
Dear T
You told me this week that the anger I had experienced "was progress!" I don't doubt your sincerity, nor your enthusiasm for guiding me in a forwards direction.... you are seeing progress so it makes sense to capitalise on that.
But, whilst I agree progress has been made, I'm thinking that you are way ahead of where I feel I am at. Like there's an unspoken 'expectation' that now I can continue to move forward without any barriers and that we can 'deal with all the remaining elephants in the room' in an expeditious manner. I was hoping to be able to take things at a slower pace.
You’ve often said that I am processing stuff in a different way. Perhaps it doesn’t matter how stuff is processed, so long as it is? But I'm not processing it in the way I need to process it.
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I would feel rushed by this too, and it would probably make me feel a lot worse than I was feeling already. I think it's possible there is a mis - attunement here.
Or maybe I'm projecting an appalling therapy experience onto this.... I hope I am and that this therapist proves to be genuinely helpful to you. It's not always possible to ''move forward'' at the ''pace'' that THEY want. ANY ''forward'' movement is good..... but they Should be able to take things at YOUR pace. imho. Of course there can be barriers to that in some places. But if the barrier is in the personality of the therapist and/or their lack of skills....then....
anyway, please try to be gentle with self.
It's ok not to please the therapist. They are there to help us, we are not there to feed them......