It is damaging to self esteem to have been passed over. Connecting romantically can be so intimidating if you don’t know what works, aren’t comfortable with it, too in your head. Does your therapist have a way to address this for you?

Have you ever seen the film Saturday Night Fever? The main character (John Travolta) falls in love with his dance partner. This thread makes me think of that great scene from that movie where they click romantically while dancing.