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Old May 01, 2023, 02:04 PM
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
On a separate note. I had a lesbian female look at my apartment yesterday and she wants to move forward. She's only 29! And tells me her father will be sending me her rent every month. Her FATHER! She has relatively poor credit, in the low 500's and may not pass the credit check, so again, she says her father can co-sign. She has depression and ADD, and is on meds for both.

I just don't think so. I want someone older or closer to my own age, who doesn't need to depend on their family for money. My landlord is now requiring a lease for the new person, 12 months. I don't want to get stuck with someone who has depression and ADD and who could end up dragging me down sometimes. I want someone healthier than ME, someone stable and who doesn't have any mental health issues.

I am not yet desperate - now I am looking for a June 1 move-in date. I think I will tell her no.

Is it common to reveal your sexual orientation and mental health issues when you first meet a potential roommate? I mean I can see the orientation more just because it could be awkward if someone is prejudiced, but it almost sounds like they were "warning" you, like the ADD or depression is going to be an issue. And does she work or is a student? Is she on disability? I mean I've been on disability several times but I've paid my own rent since I was 19.

I don't think you are wrong to be skeptical. It sounds like the rent will be paid, but you might end up being a babysitter.
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