You could be the best husband in the world, but if the wife isn't receptive, it won't matter. It's not your fault. She would never meet you in the middle, and that's pretty much the only way it works.

Love the dynamic with your daughter. I once read that the difference between a child who grows up to be successful, and one who doesn't, is the involvement of a mentor. Someone who believed in them and encouraged them. It seems like you've got that covered for your kids