-Should I or should I not, when the twins are older, talk about my nephew? he was essentially their big brother and loved them. I don't want to inflict grief and sadness on them when they or older by talking about him, but he was part of the family and I don't want to ignore his memory. What do you all think? Is it important to talk about a passed family member, or better to keep it to a minimum?

I think, that when the age of appropriateness comes around, that you SHOULD talk about him for sure. Kids are much wiser than we give them credit for, and not talking about it with them may leave them wondering why you kept it secret. Too, although we dont want to inflict greif or sadness, those are both emotions that children need to learn to cope with so they have those skills as adults. Of course, make it age appropriate, but do answer questions honestly to the best of your ability. It is also totally ok to give a general and say " When your a little bit older I will tell you the rest of what happened. Right now i think telling you might upset you and I don't want that". This shows you value them and respect them and don't want to see them hurt. Above all else, don't lie or make up fairy tales ("the angels took them" or "they ran away" kind of things. Kids see through thhis all the time.

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Alright, second question. Talked about this with a friend a while ago, just thought of it again today so figured I'd get everyone's opinions. Hopefully not a touchy subject and hopefully won't provoke any arguments, but if I'm overstepping any boundaries I apologize.

In MY opinion I think you should present opportunities to learn about your religeon in a way that allows them the freedom to choose it or look elsewhere. For instance if you are church going, then you could bring them to church and explain that is what YOU beleive to be true. And, if they show interest, ask if they would like to learn about other religeons. That can be fun, and enlightening too!