I’m so sorry you and Mending had such horrible experiences with Meetup. I’d actually wondered about trying it sometime but this has made me think again.

You sound really hurt, I wonder if you need a good chunk of time and effort just to recover from these experiences. It doesn’t have to be a negative/sad thing it can be a positive ‘being good to Jesyka’ thing, walking away is sometimes the most positive thing you can do.

How do you feel about the advice you’ve got here? Such as enjoying the friendship you do have. One good friend is worth more than 1000 fake ones I’d say.