Someone has to talk me out of reacting to something.

Keep in mind.... No accountability, thought she'd be powerful and "independent" while extracting a ton of money from me.

We still have a joint account that the mortgage payments, and some other automated payments come out of.

My pay has been redirected to another account months ago.

A couple of months ago she told me she accidentally used the wrong account out of habit when buying herself something. Then she told me she accidentally used the wrong account when getting gas. I replied, "It's $100 total. It's not a big deal." She insisted that things be equal, so she paid it back.

Two days ago, I deposited some money into the account to cover an automatic payment for an activity our daughter is in. My wife transferred that exact amount to her personal account the next morning.

So I went back through and checked, and found out she has transferred another $140 in small sums to herself.

I'm just choked by the audacity of this. She paid me back $100, and then quietly lifted another $140 from me, then swooped the $180 for our daughter.

This, to me, is desperation. I don't think she can afford to live alone. Her "friends" aren't going to take her in. And she can't admit she was wrong, and she can't come home. There is no big pay out coming anytime soon.

I want to lose it with her for this.