Dear Open Eyes, parent or not ,nobody is perfect in this world and no body knows everything there is to know.I think every one learns as time passes by. What I was talking about is some people (adults)think they are born knowing everything and they don't need to correct themselves because their way is the highway. I will give you a very simple example. My mom always burnt pancakes. I remember saying (I was very young may be 4or5)...mom,they are burnt....And I am not going to go into the details of what punishment I got for saying so.My dad used to look at me with contempt saying you always whine and upset mom.The pancakes are just how they should be. They are perfect.I made perfect ones before age 10.
I am not sure why you brought up the context of learning disorders. I don't have a learning disorder,on the contrary I was a smart student growing up and a very selfdisciplined kid.A lot of my teachers have appreciated me.I am still not sure why a parent hates a girl,who makes breakfast,feeds the younger kids,serves mom and dad too,goes to school, gets A's and B's ,comes home,helps younger ones in homework,makes supper and then waits for the parents to come home to eat and rest.I have explained because you said parents in your generation punished for disorders as they were not understood.
After I read your last paragraph, I wanted to urge you to go and read my previous posts where I have shared certain things(that is only a tip of an iceberg),but then there are more than 800 posts to search.I will write a synopsis for you.
1.Burning a 4 year old by throwing sizzling hot liquid at her.(I got third degree burns on my lower legs,my face was the target,but I stepped back.It landed on my legs)

2.stripping a young female child butt naked and locking her out,because she decided daughter didn't deserve the dress bought by her.(I got attacked by a perve of the neighborhood)
3.Whacking a 6 year old on the head with a heavy object making her skull to crack for no reason.
I think I will stop here
Did their prior generations or peers expect this from them?Or modeled this for my parents.If so, there were many people who modeled how to be a parent around them to learn from.Why not follow and learn from those?There are good and bad examples all around for any generation. An adult can pick and choose and a lot of times people do.Normal people try and learn and correct themselves. I know you mean well,but I am triggered by your first sentence in the last paragraph. Trust me when I say this....I didn't jump to conclusions in a jiffy .I have beaten up myself for a long time thinking that I was a really bad girl.I deserved the abuse.And heck I have put them on pedestal myself and was trying to please them.Wanted tobe that good girl my parents wanted.Not until recently that I woke up and realized there is absolutely nothing else to do.Maybe she meant it literally when she said..go just die...I am alive against her wish. Now you tell me if was wrong to think my abuse was intentional. I saw a YouTube video just the other day.The person said it is hard to understand parental abuse unless you go through it.I think I did a good thing by not sharing it with anyone in real life.I think my intuition told me I will be misunderstood, so I kept quiet. Hence I am here on this forum.