@Soupe du jour I feel sorry for you right now! Your sister's husband doesn't seem attractive. I understand that you feel the way you do. Hope the funeral goes well (I mean it is not "only" the grief to be handled, but the circumstances as well).

I am glad that you feel that you have a real home in the the Czech Republic. It will be good for you to come back there when all this is finished. You will still have the grief over the loss of a father and a brother of course, but may be that "work" is done best at home. Please remember: It is not worth the prize of cuareling with your husband about things you cannot change (goes both ways).

Send my best wishes for you and your husband!

(Please excuse any spelling mistakes. I am still in Spain and have no access to a spell checker).