"Narcissists only surround themselves with people who enable their behavior. Anyone who tries to hold them accountable will be accused and blamed of the exact things the narcissist is guilty of. And the people who know the truth will remain silent or will be punished for not being “supportive”."

This has been completely true for me. Completely.

There has been no accountability for the very outrageous behavior I've seen at times. And attempt to get accountability has been met with deflection, denial it occurred, or re-direction to something I should be guilty of.

Yes, she has used familial losses, and held herself up as the most effected.

I have been blamed of the exact same things I witnessed in her. The exact, to the point that I thought I was going crazy and I actually reviewed the possibility of me having a personality disorder with my counselor.

God, this punches me in the heart.