I do think maybe there are some things that will just never heal. With my T, there is a conflict over a financial thing related to insurance that's really complicated. We've both heard each other out, and I think we each understand the other more than we did in the initial conflict in the fall, which was pretty ugly. But I don't see us ever agreeing on it. So I think it's something that I just need to kind of accept, even though it still hurts me how it was dealt with. And I still disagree with his viewpoint on it. So I think that may just always be there.

And there are a couple other things with him from the past where I don't know that doing any more talking will help. So I just put them in the back of my mind as best I can and try to focus on the areas where he's consistent and dedicated and supportive. But they can get triggered from time to time (like his reaction at one point to my saying I loved him).

I think this is the case in other relationships, too, past and present. I wish that everything could be resolved and healed, but I've come to realize that may not be realistic.