Thanks, I've done this. Her mother is also clearly on the spectrum and we've talked about that. We've also discussed autism more generally a number of times.

My hope has been that she picks up on some of the subtext, and has something of a realization, but that doesn't seem to be happening. And I'm basically of the opinion that her self-concept will be better if she makes the discovery herself, rather than me bringing it up with her directly.

It's been challenging as there seems to be a bit of a communication break-down between us. Her behavior over the past few years has pushed me into functional depression, but the only way forward seems to be to set the whole issue aside, as I'm not seeing a way to communicate this with her.

And all she sees is my increasing de-motivation, and likely interprets it as me not caring about her. I'm really trying to care, but it's hard to stay motivated when it's not really reciprocated.

Anyway - maybe there isn't a 'solution' so to speak. But it's nice to at least express these thoughts.