I don't know if he is violent but it bothers me that he can't realize I need time to get to know someone and I can't really straight away into 1 to 2 dates promise we will meet every 3 days at least, otherwise "it won't work". It feels pressuring. Especially since I told him I am very introverted and I need time to get into relationship, unless I know the person for months or even years. I usually dated long time male friends, and my ex husband was extremely patient with me considering we were in early 20s when we started dating. He really gave me time. Pity our marriage didn't work, but I am glad we have a child.
Since I had a lot of male friends, I tend to "read" men pretty easily, even when they lie, I usually know who am I talking too quite fast. Men are simple, open and they are not great at lying and manipulating... not usually. And I really tend to like people with flaws, because I find them endearing, human, normal... when someone is presenting themselves as perfect and all his exes were "crazy" and I can't read that person at all, I tend to get cautious. And I don't like being pressured, or warned that he "always knows" whatever am I doing. I may be very wrong in this case but something is just telling me that I should be careful. Instinct or just plain fear of commitment?