I just got back from my trip to Jay's. We had a great time!! We spent 2 hours kayaking around the lake. He then drove me around on his golf cart all over the neighborhood to show me around. Then he cooked a nice dinner for me, followed by a bonfire outside. We had a leisurely morning, then I took off to drive home. It was lovely. I drove home with a warm feeling in my heart. It felt good.

One weird thing though - it was my 4th wedding anniversary yesterday. And the last time I had been driven around in a golf cart was on my wedding day and honeymoon/vacation. So that was a bit ironic to again be driving around on a golf cart, on the day of my anniversary, but with a different man.

I did feel a bit off for the 1st couple hours of my visit. I just wasn't feeling like myself... but eventually, I snapped out of it and had a good time with Jay.

I did notice that Jay introduced me twice to two different people as his "friend". So I pointed this out to him and said that we're more than just friends... and more than just friends who are sleeping together. So he asked me what I preferred to be called, and I didn't want to say "girlfriend" - it feels too soon to be calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend, but we're pretty much on that edge. So, I said I didn't know, and dropped the conversation. The last thing I want is to create pressure on this newly budding relationship and I want to let things unfold naturally.... at their own pace. I know he said he wants to take things slowly, so that's likely why I held back. But I feel we're on our way to becoming a more committed "couple".

This was the first real time since his own divorce 5 years ago that he's brought a woman to his home on the lake. He brought one "date" and she made a negative comment about the home. It's certainly modest and more like a tiny rundown but cute lake cottage. He's renting and it was supposed to just be short-term but turned into 3 years and ongoing. It' s a gorgeous spot - with the lake right there at your fingertips and a beautiful view out his living room and kitchen.